Becoming a Sexier Woman

Becoming a Sexier Woman

You want to invest in your image.  You want to show the world the best, most confident you that you can be.  Maybe you want to catch somebody’s eye, but you aren’t secure with your looks. You are overwhelmed with choices and advice about what you should do first, how to find the time to do it and who to look to for help.  You aren’t alone.

Meet Christine.  She is attractive but as she hits her mid-thirties, she doesn’t look in the mirror as much.  When she does, she isn’t as happy with her reflection as she used to be.  She wants Paul to notice her, but she isn’t showing herself off.  Her 35th birthday is approaching and so she decided to give herself a gift.

She decided it was time to invest some time and money into herself, but she didn’t want do anything surgical.  Last week she stepped naked in front of a full length mirror and really analyzed what she saw from head to toe.  She made a to-do list help her turn back the hands of time a few years.

Her hair is naturally jet black and glossy.  The few grey strands that were springing up bugged Christine.  She decided to pluck them and get a haircut.  Coloring could wait for several years.

Then she smiled. She had the benefit of braces as a child and good oral hygiene to give her a row of straight, healthy teeth.  Years of coffee drinking, and two years of smoking in college, has stained them a slightly yellow color. She added teeth bleaching system to her to do list.

Next she jumped up and down a bit.  She noted any body part that jiggled, that should not jiggle.  She keeps active playing tennis twice a week and walking her Labrador.  But she noticed that she isn’t as tone as she would like to be, particularly in her upper body. She scribbled, “get tone”.

She admitted that she could stand to lose five pounds.  She grumbled at the thought of a diet, but wrote, “lose five pounds”.

Christine reviewed her makeover list. It read:

–         Pluck grays and get a hair-cut.

–         Bleach teeth

–         Tone upper body

–         Lose five pounds.

She put her clothes back on and took a look at her budget.  She decided she could spend only $100 on this project.  Without the benefit of an unlimited budget, she would need to be creative to accomplish her goals.


She called her friend and they brainstormed.  Together they made an action plan for each item on the list.

  • She could get a quality haircut at the beauty school for only $20.  Christine made an appointment for the next week.
  • There are plenty of do it yourself bleaching kits at the drugstore.  She read peoples reviews and ended up spending another $25 to get a top of the line kit.  She started using the kit that night.
  • She decided to get up 15 minutes earlier every day and add strength training to her daily routine.  She spent $40 for some simple equipment and a video to guide her.
  • She eats a fairly healthy diet but indulges in chips and a soda with her lunch most days.  Deciding to cut back to twice a week, would be an easy way to shed the extra weight.  It would also save her $7 a week.

With the remaining money and the money she would save on her lunch expenses, Christine decided she would buy a new dress to celebrate her new look.  She circled her birthday on the calendar.  She had 6 weeks to complete the transformation.

She couldn’t wait to get started.  Now a week into her project Christine reports that she is progressing well.  She says the hardest part was making the decision to confront herself in the mirror.  Now that she has a plan of action, she feels more confident of her success.  She has her eye on a black sleeveless dress at a vintage shop.

Giving yourself a makeover doesn’t have to be expensive or overwhelming.  Just be honest with yourself about your starting point.  Arm against failure with making a time and monetary budget that is realistic to your lifestyle.  Reward small successes.  Remember, confidence is sexy.

When do you feel sexiest?  What would be on your makeover agenda? Let us know.

10 ways on how to spice up your sexlife- all with your clothes on!

10 ways on how to spice up your sexlife- all with your clothes on!

Sandra and Bill had been dating for a year and were considering marriage.  They both liked sports and they both wanted to start a family.  But Sandra was getting a little bored of always watching NFL and wanted do something different.  Bill started wondering what to talk about and would mentally create a list of conversation starters before the got together. The prospect of a lifetime of boredom and running out of conversation scared both of them.  Soon they began to doubt their compatibility.

This would not be the first marriage for either of them and they did not want to make the same mistake they had done in choosing their first spouse.  Bill’s ex-wife, Maria, was a knock-out and an ambitious lawyer.  He fell in love with her drive and enjoyed the envious glances of other men when he took his wife to dinner.  Their relationship had been passionate and intellectually stimulating.  Bill never suspected that Maria was having an affair and felt shocked, heart broken and angry when Maria confessed.  He doubted his ability to choose women and did not date again until his brother introduced him to Sandra at Super Bowl party.

Sandra divorced Frank because he spent more time on line gambling than he did on anything else.  He was a good guy but his addiction ruined their finances and their relationship.  Sandra tried to help him but eventually had to cut him loose.  She wanted to have children.  She couldn’t wait around for Frank to change.

Sandra and Bill met because they both loved football.  They loved and trusted each other.  Still that’s not enough.  Bill and Sandra made a pact to do 13 exciting activities together before giving up on building a life together.  Take a look and challenge your partner to do a few of them with you.  There is nothing like an adrenaline rush to get conversations started.

1 Get up on stage together – try karaoke, open mic night or community theater.

2 Fly through the air together– Go skydiving, paragliding, or hot air ballooning.

3 Go somewhere exotic together- Experiencing a new culture, new language and new people makes you rely on each other.  This is not a resort experience.  You have to really mingle with the people that live there.  To make it really exciting, don’t plan your hotels and activities ahead of time.

4 Try new foods together- Get out of your gastronomic comfort zone.  Sample fried crickets, frog legs, and Rocky Mountain oysters together.  If you don’t like the taste, you can promise to not serve it at the wedding.

5 Go Fast- Get on a speedboat, go-cart or carnival ride.

6 Try a new sport- Skiing, golfing, kite surfing, whatever sport neither of you know anything about but are willing to try.  Learning a new skill might give you both a new hobby to enjoy together.  Stay active and challenged to stimulate the relationship.

7 Get lost- Who gets lost on purpose?  Try it.  Take 3 public busses/trains but don’t look at the numbers or where you are going.  Just get on. You will explore your town together like you never have before.  You have a great adventure and then you have to work together to solve the problem of how to get home again.

8 Create an original piece- music, painting choreography, write a story.  It doesn’t have to be good and you never have to show anyone else.  Just get your creative juices flowing and remember to work as a team.  No giving up for “artistic differences”.

9 Put on some music- Each of you pick out some new music to share with the other.  Find a different from what you typically listen to, maybe African drumming, Middle Eastern singing or Indonesian gamelan.  It will open your ears and minds to new sounds and together you will have an auditory adventure.

10 Make friends with another couple- Sometimes just seeing how your life partner puts on the charm can make you remember what attracted you in the first place.

Happily, once Sandra and Bill started to do more exciting activities, they never ran out of things to talk about.  Having a sense of adventure became an essential part of their relationship.  The still watch football together and still plan to have a family.  Let us know how things go for you.

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How to Create Love Energy (by Sean Stephenson)

😉 -Zhenya

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